When you say grinding, what do you mean? If the flexplate is in good condition, does the starter even engage the teeth of the flexplate or just spins? Are your replacement starters new or reman'd? Reason I ask these questions is, in the past year, I've also run into issues with "new starters" from Autozone. One issue was the solenoid not pushing the gear fully onto the flexplate teeth and the last one was simply a new starter gone bad--drawing too much power to spin the motor. Only saving grace was that both of these staters had a limited lifetime warranty and, therefore, exchanged free of charge.
I agree with the need for the nose brace...think about your struggles raising and holding the starter in position!